It's 2018! ...which also probably means everyone is trying to tell you how to live your life.
But the question remains: How do you want to live your life? What does a meaningful and fulfilling life look like for you?
If there's anything I learned in 2017, it's to stop trying to copy everyone else because I might not have the same goals or vision as them.
Stop chasing someone else's dream and start creating your own.
Want To Live A More Meaningful And Fulfilling Life? Here Are 4 Simple Things You Can Do:
1. What does your ideal day look like for you?
The first step to live a more meaningful and fulfilling life is to live life by your own standards.
It's so easy to get caught up in what everyone else is doing; sometimes, we end up thinking that our own lives have to look like someone else's, but what does your ideal life look like to you?
Maybe it's waking up at 6 am every morning and going for a run or maybe it's waking up at noon and making yourself a nice lunch.
One of the worst things you can do is force yourself to do something you don't enjoy because you think you "should" be doing it or because everyone else seems to be doing it.
I've been following Caroline from MadeVibrant for a few years now - and I know Jason Zook is her husband, and one day I saw one of his interviews on the Lavendaire podcast so of course I listened to it. Well, Jason was talking about their lifestyle - and honestly? It sounded so nice because they were living life and doing business on their own terms. (Here's the link to the podcast.)
Some people want to build an empire, while others want to live quietly off the grid.
Is one better than the other? No, it's just finding out what works for you and creating that reality for yourself.
2. Do an honest audit and inventory of your life.
Now that you know what an ideal day and life looks like for you, it's time to do an honest inventory of what your current day consists of.
For example, if you want to live a more minimalist lifestyle but you have a ton of things everywhere, ask yourself why you're holding onto those things. Why haven't you let them go? Are you holding onto them for a reason?
Or if you want to travel around the world, what's stopping you right now?
Write down literally everything you're doing for a whole week - when you wake up, what you eat throughout the day, what you're thinking and saying to yourself through the day (mindset is really key here), the people you're hanging out with (we are the average of the 5 people we surround ourselves with), the environment you're putting yourself in, etc.
Often, we get so caught up in our day and day and we just keep repeating the same patterns and behaviors over and over again but they're not actually helping us get to where we want to go.
3. Write down your short- and long-term goals.
Once you have your inventory of your day to day life, you can set short- and long-term goals for yourself.
Instead of trying to go after your ideal lifestyle all at once, break it down into more digestible and actionable steps. So often, we set these big, lofty goals for ourselves but no actual concrete plans or check-ins so what ends up happening is that we end up back in our old patterns and behaviors, which is why having short term goals in place can be so helpful so you know if you're on the right track or not.
If you just have one big goal, you're going to end up in an "all or nothing" mindset.
So if you don't reach that one goal you've set for yourself, you might think you failed and give up when really ... building your ideal lifestyle takes time, patience, self-awareness, and lots of hard work.
Because if it were that easy, everyone would be living their ideal lifestyle.
4. Start making small changes to your life.
So now that you know what your ideal day and life planned out, your honest inventory and audit of yourself and your life, and your short- and long-term goals written out, it's time to take action!
Because we could plan the rest of our lives away, but until we start taking action, the planning itself won't get us anywhere.
Instead of trying to do all the things at once (because that never works out well...), start making small changes to yourself life. Wake up 5 minutes earlier, spend 10 more minutes a day with your family, journal for 15 minutes a day, etc.
Because when you start making one change to your life, it becomes easy to make the other changes too - especially when they're closely related.
For example, if you start going to the gym everyday, at some point, you have to start eating healthier too because your body isn't going to react kindly to processed and unhealthy food.
So start with one change and expand, instead of trying to do all the things.
In other words, be patient with yourself but also take action.
Like I said in the beginning, a meaningful and fulfilling life looks like something different to everyone.
What may feel good to someone else might not feel good to you at all. It might feel messy, overwhelming, and totally chaotic. So it's really important to ask yourself, "What makes me feel fulfilled? What's important to me?"
Stop trying to live someone else's life and start living your own.
I'd love to hear from you.
What does your ideal day in the life of you look like? What makes you feel fulfilled?