5 Reasons Why We Need To Allow Ourselves To Be A Beginner
Have you ever tried something new and expected yourself to be a mastermind at it within a few weeks or months? Because I have.
I know what it feels like to want to get better at something already. It feels like you’ve been at it “forever” when really, you’ve been at it for a few weeks or maybe a few months.
But if we take a look at people like Marie Forleo and Lewis Howes, they’ve been working at their craft for years. Years. And they’re still learning each and every day and improving their craft.
Being a beginner isn’t a bad thing or something to feel embarrassed about, because we need to give ourselves that time to be beginners. We need to create that space for ourselves.
5 reasons why we need to allow to be beginners:
1. If we start out being great, we’re going to think we need to be perfect every time.
And if that were the case, well then … we might as well not start at all, because speaking of experience, if you’re expecting perfection out of yourself, you’re never going to want to put yourself out there.
Allow yourself to get a little messy, to make mistakes, to fumble and fall, and to make a few typos.
The world isn’t going to fall apart because you made a few typos or said the wrong thing.
Being “not so great” at something doesn’t mean you’ll stay there forever. If you practice the piano enough times with heart and passion, you will get better. Plus, allowing yourself to be a beginner will also teach you a lot about self-compassion, being kind to yourself, and letting go.
2. You’ll need time, space, and the freedom to figure out the ropes.
Say you want to become an event planner, but you know nothing about event planning.
Well, you’re going to need to figure out how to put together the guest list, vendors, supplies, timing, and all other logistics, including the day of and the cleaning up part.
And it’s probably going to take you a few events to really get the hang of it. Maybe you’ll need to be someone’s assistant or second-hand person for a while until you start feeling comfortable to be the main event planner.
No one comes right out of the gate knowing everything, so why do we continue expecting that of ourselves? Give yourself some grace next time. You’re doing just fine.
3. Consistency beats talent that doesn’t show up.
Instead of going for that 15 seconds of fame, why not go for something a little more sustainable?
Everyone wants to become a sudden rockstar at something overnight, but things don’t happen overnight. Don’t live your life and do things for other people’s approval; in other words, stop looking for other people’s validation.
So maybe your new project takes you longer than you thought it would. So what? Yes, it’s cool to see people accomplish x, y, and z by the time they’re 20, 30, 40, etc. But there are so many factors to take into place: where they came from, where they went to school, who they already know, etc.
And that’s not to say they didn’t work hard to get to where they are now. But take into consideration the other factors that are involved, and stop playing the comparison game (because comparison is the thief of joy, peace, and fulfillment).
I’m 100% sure that they did work really hard to get to where they are now and had to work on themselves immensely. Also, they were once a beginner too.
Everyone was once a beginner, so you’re in good company.
4. You learn to be okay with being uncomfortable.
One of my favorite life lessons is from Jen Sincero’s book, You Are A Badass At Making Money, where she takes about the willingness and need to get really, really, really, really uncomfortable. Over and over again.
That’s what it takes to succeed.
As you go on in your journey, you’re bound to face new challenges and obstacles.
They’re going to feel uncomfortable and maybe even a bit messy. Being a beginner will teach you how to be okay with being uncomfortable, because it’s going to happen over and over again.
Here’s the good news: Being uncomfortable and in new situations will become your new norm, and you’ll actually want to challenge yourself and do new things. Personal development. It’s a good thing.
5. Making mistakes won’t be the end of the world.
Does the idea of rejection scare you? Because it scares me.
In fact, it scared me a lot at first. But now it’s not so scary.
Along the way, I finally realized that making mistakes and facing rejection is part of the course. Some people are going to say no - some in a nice way, and maybe others in a not so nice way. But that doesn’t have anything to do with you, so please don’t take it personally.
We can’t control how other people feel or act towards us, but we can control our own reactions. We can control our own emotions, and be okay with being a beginner. Being okay to making mistakes and learning so we can make better mistakes next time.
Making a mistake is never fun, but it’s how to learn. It’s how you learn to not make that same mistake the next time around.
You don’t have to be perfect in order to start showing up, but you do have to show up and be present. You do have to do the work; there’s no way around that. The only way is through.
The only way is by doing, so start doing.
You got this.
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