An Honest Conversation: Don’t Forget To Love Yourself
This post was inspired by Kate from Femme Society, and I’m so glad I met her because she is such a light in this world and I’m so grateful that I’ve met her.
A few months ago, I had an idea for this IG campaign series - The Wholehearted Tribe.
In all honesty, I came up with the idea because I was looking for a way to have content to post on my Instagram page and a way to celebrate others. Their beauty, their love, their confidence. The good things about themselves, because I know first hand how easily and quickly we can pick ourselves apart.
So I started reaching out to people I found on Instagram. I cold emailed a lot of people, because I knew I had to calculate in response rate and the amount of people that weren’t going to follow through - and that’s not to say anything bad about them, because I know I’m not always the best at following up with all my emails especially if they’re not top priority.
It has been so inspiring to read everyone’s answers and seeing the beautiful photos of themselves.
And it reaffirmed what I already believed: That we all have a story and a voice, and we all need to use it and share our stories with one another. And that our voices are strong and that they matter.
Because there are so many women out there doing amazing things and I want to meet them all. I want to know their stories, their hearts, and the message that they want to share with the world.
Each of us have our own unique perspective in life. Sure, we may have similar views and values. But we all come from a different past and we’re on our own journey.
We all have something different to bring to the table.
It’s so easy to point out what we don’t like about ourselves, and often we struggle with finding things we do like about ourselves. Or we struggle with saying it out loud because we don’t want others to see us as vain.
My hope is that you realize (if you haven’t already) that you’re worth loving and everyone else around you is worth loving.
Your self-worth shouldn’t be dependent on the number of Instagram followers you have or the amount of money you make each month.
…and I know you’ve probably heard that a million times by now, but I hope that you really let that sink it. Your self-worth isn’t dependent on those things; the only person that decides if you’re worthy (or not worthy) is you, and it’s always been you.
So in Kate’s reply, she added this to her email:
"One more thing! I’m not sure how many women you have involved in the campaign but you should consider leaving yourself a spot. The message of your campaign is so positive and self-reflective that you should also have the opportunity to think about why you’re amazing too. Don’t forget to love yourself."
Don’t forget to love yourself.
That one hit me right in the gut (in a good way), because I do have a tendency to leave myself out of things.
It’s easy to ask others the questions sometimes and to forgo them ourselves.
My answer is always changing, depending on the season of life.
So currently, my answer is this:
I love that I always seem to find my way back to myself. It’s like coming home to myself. No matter how far off course I wander, my intuition always seem to know how to lead me back to my purpose.
I love being a sensitive person and being able to understand and empathize with other people’s pain. A few years ago, I struggled with getting out of bed every day for a long, long period of time. A few years ago, I cried every day of my life hoping that it won’t just end. A few years ago, I felt completely lost and alone. But you are not a tree and nothing is set in stone, so change is always possible.
I love the woman I am becoming, because I want to show others that it’s possible to change even if you feel like a complete failure (and trust me when I say I know how this feels and you are not a complete failure at all). Please be kinder to yourself. Nothing is forever and to quote Marie Forleo, "Everything is figureoutable."
Most importantly, I love myself, because … what’s there not to love?
And the same goes for you, too. What’s there not to love?
There is so, so much to love about yourself, my dear friend.
Because to quote my dear friend, Kate, “Don’t forget to love yourself."
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