Are You Afraid Of "Taking The Wrong Path In Life"?
Do you ever worry about "taking the wrong path in life"?
In this day and age, there are many paths that you could take in life.
You could go to a 4 year university, trade school, art school, or take a gap year.
You could save up to travel around the world or volunteer your time in exchange. Or even teach English in another country.
You could start your own business or go into corporate.
Or you could do something else entirely.
The options are limitless, but because we're human and we only have so much bandwidth, we can't realistically do everything.
So the only real question is: What do you want to do?
But because we live in a society where everyone has an opinion on what you should do and who you should be, it's easier said than done.
And if you're worried about taking the wrong path in life, I get it.
Because for years and years after high school, I put so much stress and anxiety on myself for not going to a 4 year university and getting a Bachelor's degree.
Growing up, college was always a non-negotiable.
Until I had a panic attack one day after class in community college.
Ultimately, I decided not to go to a 4 year university because the chances of me finishing (in my mental state back then) didn't seem to be in my favor.
Working to climb up a corporate ladder was never my cup of tea anyway.
Are you trying to live up to someone else's expectations?
Who gets to decide your path in life? The answer is you.
But sometimes, we make decisions off of what everyone else wants and thinks is best.
I'll tell you this: No one knows you as well as you do.
And if you don't take control of your life now, someone will take control of it for you.
And yes, you might end up taking the wrong path in life.
Well, that's how you learn right?
Because if you never learn to make your own decisions, then how are you going to grow? How are you going to become your own person?
I don't believe that there's actually a right or wrong path in life, there's only your path.
The sooner you learn to stop comparing yourself to everyone else, the happier you'll be.
We always want to glam up everyone else's life.
"Look at how easy they have it."
"Everything must come easily to them."
"What could they possibly have to complain about?"
We want to think the grass is greener on the other side, and I don't know if you've ever been to the other side, but it's not always that green. Or that nice.
And instead of wasting time feeling jealous of other people's lawn, why not spend that time watering and working on your own?
Because there is no right or wrong path.
If you choose to design your life a certain way and realize it's no longer working for you... guess what? You can change it.
Nothing is set in stone. You are not "locked in" to something for the rest of your life.
Even if you're in some heavy financial debt, because you can always pay it off.
Is it going to be easy? No.
Life isn't easy.
And the sooner you stop expecting everything to come easily to you, the better off you'll be. (And I say this with love, because there was a time when I believe that one day everything would just "fall into place" and I would stop being so miserable. But the only way I stopped being so miserable was me working through the messy and hard stuff.)
Don't let the fear stop you from taking action.
Moving in the wrong direction is better than not moving at all, because sooner or later, you're going to realize that you're moving in the wrong direction and start moving in the right one.
The only way we learn is by going through it.
By going through the messy stuff. By showing up every day and being present.
Present in your own life. Done is better than perfect.
So go out there and live your life.
on your own terms.
If you want to travel the world, do it.
If you want to climb up the corporate ladder, do it.
If you want to save up for a home and start a family, do it.
If you want to do something entirely different, do it.
You don't need anyone's permission but your own.
I'd love to hear from you.
Are you still afraid of taking the wrong path in life?