How To Build Resilience In Your 20’s And Become Unstoppable
Your twenties are such an interesting time.
You have an idea of who you want to be, but you're not really sure.
Or if you are sure, you're not really sure on how to get there.
Or if you do know how to get there, you feel like you're not moving fast enough.
Up until now, we were told for most of our lives what we do. On a daily basis.
What to eat, where to eat, when to eat. When it's okay to get up.
Asking for permission to use the restroom. Having a curfew. And the list goes on.
Your twenties are a time when you get to find out who you are.
Or better yet, become the person you want to be and create your ideal life. Because maybe the person other people told you to be doesn't sound like such a good idea after all.
Either way, it's probably going to feel like a bumpy ride and unexpected twists and turns at every corner.
But that doesn't mean you should give up.
In fact, you should keep going because you're getting to the good part.
You're cutting out the noise and gaining clarity and purpose along the way.
And in order to keep going even when the wind is blowing at you, you need resilient. You need to keep going and keep getting out of bed even on the darkest of days.
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Know your why and make it meaningful.
A life with purpose is a fulfilling and aligned life.
It also keeps you grounded, humble, and patient.
When we're in our twenties (or any age really), it can be tempting to compare ourselves and where we are in our journey to others.
I mean... I can't be the only one who's ever gone through a rabbit hole of comparing myself to other people my age. Even more so if they're younger than me.
And when that happens, what helps me get "back to shore" (i.e. find my sanity again) is remembering that we're all at different points in our journey.
Your why has to come within. It has to be meaningful to you.
You can't operate long-term because of other people. It's not sustainable.
When you know your why and when it's clear as day, you will find the strength to keep going because it will matter to you (so much so that giving up won't be an option).
Realize that life is not a race or competition you have to win.
The quickest way to give up is to think you don't have what it takes.
The easiest way to do that is to compare yourself to others.
But life isn't a race, and someone else's success does not mean that you can't be successful too.
When you realize that life isn't a race and that you're allowed to go at your own pace, you will be more patient and kind to yourself.
You will trust yourself.
You will be able to say "What I did today was enough" and keep going tomorrow.
You will celebrate your wins - big or small.
Remember that your life is more than a to do or checklist.
It's not about getting as many things done as fast as possible.
It's about doing them with purpose, love, and clarity.
Keep working on that self-awareness.
I know one of my biggest pitfalls is acting like a know it all.
(And how ironic is that I was about to start my next sentence with "I know...")
The truth is that you don't know it all, so be open to hearing what others have to say.
But also make sure that the advice you listen to and follow are from people who are living the kind of lifestyle with the mindset you ultimately want to have. Because not all advice is good advice.
Our twenties are a fantastic time for self-discovery, making mistakes, and learning, so really take advantage of it and put yourself out there.
Believe in yourself and your journey.
This one is the most important one, because you have to believe in yourself.
Because some days are going to be really though.
And you need that self-belief, confidence, and mindset to keep going even when the no's come falling at you, even when no one cares, even when everyone is saying you can't do it.
You have to believe in yourself to keep going.
Otherwise, you're going to listen to someone else someday and stop.
What's going to end up stopping you is your self-doubts.
So whatever it is you need to do to build that mindset, do it.
Read books. Watch videos. Listen to podcast. Apply what you learn. Execute.
Build your confidence up. Show yourself you can do it. Journal. Visualize. Meditate.
Don't worry if you don't have any confidence or self-esteem. I didn't either when I started out; you can learn by doing and putting yourself out there.
The beauty of it is that you don't have to have it all figured out before you start.
Having resilience doesn't mean you have to know everything about everything; it means getting back up when you get knocked down.
It means getting back into the boat when the boat flips over.
It means being patient and working towards what you want every day.
It means not letting anything (including your self-doubt and other people's doubts) get in the way of you and what you want.
If you want to be unstoppable, you have to be so resilient that you keep going.