Do you have a social media addiction?
Are you constantly on your phone or thinking about reaching for your phone?
Do you feel stressed out, overwhelmed, and anxious all the time?
Do you often find yourself comparing yourself to others and feel inadequate as a result?
I've been there, and being addicted to social media sucks. It leaves you feeling drained and this constant feeling of "not good enough".
But I have good news: You are good enough, and you can break free from this awful addiction because you, my dear friend, are so much more than just a number.
6 Steps To Overcoming Your Social Media Addiction
1. Delay the gratification.
When we're constantly checking our phones, we're looking for that rush.
That feeling of "Oh look, this person thinks I'm good enough, that I matter, etc".
Maybe it's a new follower or comment or even just a Facebook notification that honestly has nothing to do with you, but it's enough for you to start scrolling and checking in on your other apps (even tho you just looked at your phone 5 minutes earlier).
The good news is that this is a learned behavior, so if we learned it, we can unlearn it too.
Life isn't a competition, and social media shouldn't be about "who's the best".
2. Don't base your self-worth on numbers.
As women, we have a tendency to base our self-worth and perceived value on numbers - whether it's the number on the scale, on the back of your clothing tag, the number of Instagram followers you have, the amount of likes you got on your last photo.
But your value is not defined by a number.
Remember that you are so much more than a number.
Learn to detach yourself from the numbers.
Stop caring about them. Stop spending time with people who care about them. Stop looking and thinking about them.
And stop looking for other people's approval, because it's never going to feel like enough if you go down that road.
3. Schedule it in advance.
I get it. Social media is important, but that doesn't mean it has to become your entire life.
You can save so much time and energy by scheduling your content in advance and you can do this for Instagram, Pinterest, Facebook, YouTube, and any other platform you use.
Yes, be social. Engage. Build real relationships with other people.
But realistically, how often do you just scroll ...and scroll ...and scroll without purpose or intention?
If you're addicted to your phone and social media, scheduling your content in advance is a great way to give yourself a break but also still "be relevant" at the same time.
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4. Turn off the notifications.
At first, when I turned off my phone notifications, it was hard. It felt like something was missing.
I'll even go as far to say I felt like a part of me was missing.
But do you honestly need to be notified of every little thing? (No, you don't.)
It actually creates anxiety and stress for me when I see someone's phone screen lighting up every few minutes with notifications. It just adds more noise and clutter into your life - and it adds to your codependency to your phone.
If you want to overcome your social media addiction, turn your notifications off. You can thank me for this one later.
5. Find fulfillment outside of your phone.
As someone who loves her Internet and staying connected with the online world, I encourage you to find activities that bring you fulfillment and happiness that don't involve being on your phone the whole time.
And to take that a step further, resist the urge to want to take a million photos of you doing the activity to share on social media to show people that you have a life.
Your life shouldn't be you trying to provide to other people that you have a life.
Your life should be about you, not about making sure other people still like you.
It's way more important that you like yourself.
6. Stop reaching for your phone.
Have you ever thought about how much time you spend grabbing for your phone, let alone checking it? It's something we've been so dependent on; social media addiction and codependency is a real thing.
Put your phone somewhere else like another room or even behind your laptop (what I do). Because if it's out of sight, it's out of mind. And trust me, this really does work!
I told my friend to do this recently, and she said she got wayyyy more done by putting her phone in another room.
When it's right next to you or somewhere in sight, it's easier to grab for it and you're constantly getting distracted in the process.
Don't make it harder on yourself by leaving the temptation there.
It's like saying you're going to stop consuming sugar, but leaving all your sugary snacks in the pantry.
What do you think is going to happen? You're going to find yourself in the pantry reaching for that sugary snack. That's what.
If you really want to overcome your social media addiction, then you have to work at it.
As we all know, simply having a goal isn't enough. You have to put in the work too.
So that means learning to be okay with uncomfortable change, delaying the gratification, not basing your self-worth on numbers and stats, being smart and prioritizing, turning off notifications, finding fulfillment outside your our phone, and putting your phone out of sight.
I'm not denying that our phones are important and an essential part of our lives (because they are), but they don't have to be our whole lives. Or what we base our self-worth on.