Money with Molly #1: Getting Real Vulnerable
This is something that I’ve wanted to talk about and do for a while now, but I have to be honest, I’m kind of terrified about putting this out into the world. I feel like I should wait until I’m “more ready”, but the truth is... we’re never going to feel 100% ready, so we have to be brave enough to put ourselves out there before we are ready.
I'm starting this new series, "Money with Molly", because I've never felt comfortable around money (or even my name actually - I've never felt genuinely connected to my name). In fact, I get overly emotional around money - sometimes consciously but more often than not unconsciously. And after reading Prince Charming Isn't Coming, I felt inspired to start talking about money more. To release the fear, to release the shame, and to be more open about it.
To create a space to talk openly and have really honest and real conversations about the things that scare us the most,
so we can stop feeling afraid and start feeling empowered and take intentional action.
We’re going to talk about money. The big elephant in the room. The thing that we’re always curious about.
Okay, the thing that I’m always curious about. The thing that I really want to talk about, but often scared to bring up, because I don’t know how other people are going to react.
Are they going to be okay with talking about money? Is that a off the table topic for them?
I really don’t know, but what I do know is that I want to start talking about money and feel empowered.
Recently, I read this book called, “Prince Charming Isn’t Coming” by Barbara Stanny and I loved it. Growing up, I always knew I wanted to be financially independent. But I didn’t know how …and I didn’t know if it was possible. I didn't believe it was possible for me, too. And if we're being honest here, sometimes I still don't.
I always thought being abundant, wealthy, and happy was for other people but not me.
A little backstory:
When I was younger, I suffered from really bad depression and anxiety. Not the kind where you feel sad for a few days, but when you can’t get out of bed and when you have a hard time doing daily activities like chewing your food or wanting to do anything with your life. And to be completely transparent with you - it was to the point where I didn’t even want to live anymore.
I remember jumping from job to job a few years ago when I was working in the food service industry and feeling… defeated, lost, and behind in life.
And that’s part of the reason why I wanted to start this “Money Talk” series, because we should value ourselves. We are worthy. We are abundant.
We are capable of so much more than we give ourselves credit for.
And regardless of where you came from, what your background is, what your current beliefs are, I truly do believe change is possible if you are willing. It’s not easy, but it’s possible. For you, for me, for everyone who wants to change but it takes an inner commitment and lots of discipline.
You have to be the one to want to change your life; no one else can do it for you.
So, let’s start by being more intentional and aware around money.
3 money lessons I’ve recently learned
1. Money is an amplifier of who you are.
If you’re a compassionate person, your compassion for others is going to amplify and expand when you have more money. When I think about those I admire who are compassionate and abundant not only with money but with their community and who they are, I think of people like Natalie Franke from The Rising Tide Society, Jenna Kutcher with the Goal Digger Podcast, Melyssa Griffin, Elizabeth Gilbert, Oprah, and other amazing women like them.
So the lesson is to work on yourself and start becoming the woman you want to be. Our daily actions today and every day determine and shape who we turn out to be in the future.
I think some of us are scared that money is going to isolate us or that we’re going to become someone else, but having money is not a bad thing. See money as an opportunity to open new doors - with more money, you can outsource and delegate. You can hire other women and bring them onto your team. You can share your message and your story with even more people.
These are all good things. You can empower others, while empowering yourself.
2. You attract more of what you spend your energy and attention on.
If you constantly tell yourself that you’re broke and “you’re never going to figure it out", you’re going to continue being and living in lack, which is why it’s so important to spend time with people who value themselves. Because if we continue to surround ourselves with people who don’t value themselves, what do you think the chances are of you valuing yourself?
You have to start believing that things can be different, because they can. You have to start believing that making money is easy. That making money is a good thing. That the money you spend will come back to you tenfold, which brings me to the next point…
3. You and money are in a relationship.
So something I’ve been hearing a lot of recently. Imagine yourself in a relationship with money, how would you describe your relationship? Is it stable and sustainable? Or are you always arguing and clingy? Do you want money to spend all its time with you, or are you willing to let it go spend some time with its friends trusting that it’ll come back to you?
If you and money were in a relationship, how would money describe you? Think of it from its perspective. How is money being treated by you? How does it feel when it’s around you? How would money describe you to its friends?
We have to become aware in order to change, because we have to know what it is we want to change. I hope you enjoyed and were able to take away something from our first, "Money with Molly" talk. Share your thoughts with me in the comments below or feel free to shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Thanks for being here, friend. I really appreciate you and would love to hear from you.
Here for you,