Stop Telling Yourself You "Don’t Have Experience”
I use to say “I don’t have enough experience” all the time, and I let it hold me back from a lot of things for years. Years! But that’s okay, because you need to let go of “how many years you’ve lost too”.
Start today and keep moving forward, because it’s a whole lot better than spending your time and energy on the time you think you’ve lost. Change your perspective and think about how much time you still have to make all the wonderful things you want to happen into existence.
But not having the experience or the degree is just an excuse we tell ourselves.
So we don’t have to go outside of our comfort zone.
But guess what? Gaining that new experience will be outside of your comfort zone, because you’ve never done it before.
Anything new is always going to be uncomfortable at first. Until it becomes your new norm.
For example, when I first started Wholehearted Woman, talking to people was outside of my comfort zone. I remember my first virtual coffee chat when I discovered the FB group online world; holy moly, I was a hot, sweaty mess (and not in a good way). I didn’t know what to say, and I was so nervous that I was making the other person uncomfortable that I probably made myself even more uncomfortable int he process.
But guess what? Over time, I got better.
And someone even invited me onto their podcast a month ago!
That felt scary and really uncomfortable too. So much so that I actually rescheduled on her at the very last minute (Sorry Lauren! Thanks for being so understanding and awesome about it).
I’m sharing this with you because I know what it feels like to feel like everyone else has it figured out. But trust me, they had to learn along the way too. They made mistakes along the way too.
No one is perfect, and no one is expecting you to be perfect (and if they are, maybe you need to re-evaluate if that’s the kinda person you want in your life).
Believe it or not, you already have all of the resources you need. No, you don’t need that upgrade yet. No, you don’t need that shiny new mic yet. You’ll know when it’s time to upgrade.
Get the experience first, and dip your toes into the water.
Sometimes, we want to dive right in (which is great), but you also have to make sure that this journey is sustainable. You’re in it for the long run. It isn’t some 7 day challenge where you disappear on day 3.
Put yourself out there.
The only way you’re going to gain experience is if you put yourself out there.
Everyone had to be a beginner at some point.
No one picked up a camera one day and suddenly became a pro photographer. They had to learn the lighting, the angles, the editing, etc.
People don’t become six figure bloggers overnight. They had to show up everyday and provide value to their audience, and maybe they didn’t even have an audience for the first few months.
You have to be ready to show up, whether there’s someone on the other side. You’re changing your life for you, not for them.
At the end of the day, no one is going to hand things to you on a silver platter. So if you really want something (i.e. experience), you have to go out and make it happen.
There are so many resources out there.
Books, ebooks, webinars, YouTube videos, Skillshare, Lynda, blogs, podcasts, etc.
It doesn’t matter if you’re a visual learner, audio learner, or something else, there is something out there for you.
Someone out there started exactly where you are today and built themselves up over time. Because yes, it’s going to take time and lots of work.
But if you consistently show up and apply yourself, there’s your experience right now.
It’s up to you to get the experience you need.
Don’t know the first thing about blogging? Don’t worry, because there are probably millions of blog articles out there that will show up literally step by step on how to get one set up whether you want to use Squarespace, Wordpress, or something else.
Want to do a brand partnership? There’s tons of resources on that, too.
Set up an email list? Again, tons of resources out there for you to look at.
If you choose not to do it, that’s a choice you’re making.
But “not having the experience” isn’t a valid reason in this day and age anymore, so let’s just call it what it is: an excuse.
I’m not saying that it’s easy, because I can tell you right now that’s it’s probably not going to be. But I will say that it’s completely possible. It’s completely possible to go from no experience to having so much experience to the point where you can start teaching others.
And that it’s possible for you even if you’re the type of person that always gave up easily in the past, because I use to be that person too. It’s possible to change your story.
You can always change who you are.
It doesn’t matter if you were a certain way for the past five years or past five decades. If you want to change - if you commit (like really commit) to changing your mindset and who you are, you can do it.
Here are a few of my favorite mindset books to help you get started:
Remember, whatever you want is within your reach. But you have to believe in yourself, show up everyday, and do the work.
You gain experience by doing. You got this.