Growing up, I struggled with my body image.
The way it looked, the way it felt, the way it moved.
I remembered being so ashamed and embarrassed that I would wear sweaters in the summer.
When it was really, really hot out.
Over and over again, I heard comments like “if you lost a bit of weight, someone would like you”, suggesting that no one would ever like me if I stayed that way. Suggesting that there was something wrong with my body. Suggesting that I shouldn’t love myself until I lost weight.
And for over two decades, I believed them.
Even when I started to accept my body, I felt ashamed to say so.
I mean, who was I to love my body?
But now I know better. Who am I not to?
My body is my home, just like your body is yours.
And just like you wouldn’t let someone come in and mess up your home, I don’t let people talk about my body like that anymore.
That kind of toxicity has no place in my life, and it shouldn’t have a place in yours either.
I talk about body image and self-love, because I remember what it’s like hating yourself. Not only your body, but all of yourself. Spending years and years of your life believing that you’re not good enough. Not pretty enough, not smart enough, not talented enough.
The thing is… you are enough.
You are more than enough, and you always have been.
The world wants you to believe that there is something wrong with you.
That you have to buy this product and that product.
That there is a “magical product that will solve all your problems”.
That overnight success is real.
No, no, and no. There is nothing wrong with you, and there is not a product out there that will do a "quick fix" on your life.
You have to work at improving your own life. Day in and day out. Over and over again.
Have you ever asked yourself why? Why don’t you think you’re enough just the way you are?
Why do we spend so much time and energy trying to make everyone else happy by making ourselves miserable in the process?
I talk about body image, because every woman I’ve ever met has had some kind of relationship with her body. And more often than that, it was an unpleasant one growing up.
The thing is we can’t compartmentalize our lives.
We are WHOLE human beings, which means when one area of our life is affected, all other areas of our life is affected as well.
So if you have low self-esteem and a lack of confidence because you don’t love your body, your work and how you show up in the world is going to reflect that.
I believe in being the voice you needed when you were younger.
And when I was younger, I needed to hear that my body was worth loving -- and that I was worth loving.
It’s taken me a long time to love myself, to believe in myself, and to show up for myself.
However, there are still a lot of people out there struggling with their bodies, their appearances, and their relationship with themselves.
And I hope that by sharing my story, it will help inspire others to love, to believe, and to show up for themselves.
Because when you choose love over fear and hate, you choose life.
You become someone who shows up for other people too. You become kinder and more forgiving. You become someone who sees the future, instead of dwelling on the past.
What’s important and what matters is that you believe it.
Hi there! I'm Molly, the founder of Wholehearted Woman.
Be the person you needed when you were younger and share your story, because you're the one who someone else needs today.