Imagine this: It's the beginning of a new month (yay!). New month, better you, right?
And so you start coming with up a goals list. You want to accomplish this and that, and things are going great.
By then an hour goes by and suddenly you want to accomplish everything under the moon. You have 10 business goals, 5 health goals, 3 creative goals, and a few other goals.
I have nothing against goals, but I've seen way too many people fall through on them. Myself included. And one of the most common reasons why goals don't work out is because we want to focus on all of them. At the same time.
Why It's Important To Focus On Only ONE Thing At A Time
It's not smart or efficient to focus on 12 things at once.
When we have multiple things we want to work on and we prioritize them all at the top, nothing really gets done or moves the needle. Because if everything is important, what's really important anymore? How do you know?
This is something that I'm constantly trying to get better at, because I have a tendency to overcommit and want to do all the things all at once.
I remember this one time in high school when we had a class assignment and our teacher told us to get in groups, and I thought it would be a fantastic idea to just do everything myself because it would be "more efficient" (because y'know, sometimes you end up with people would don't do their work).
Well, let's just say it was not as easy as I thought it was going to be.
Because when everything seems important, you're just jumping around from thing to thing. But you're not really getting anything done.
It's a breeding ground for stress, overwhelm, and burn out.
I have to admit I'm pretty ambitious sometimes; I like to create lofty goals for myself that involve a lot of work.
For example, right now, I'm aiming to publish a blog post 5 days a week (Monday through Friday) in Q1 (January to March).
Which... in this day and age, it's kind of nuts, right?
Because blogging is no longer just about blogging.
It's about the SEO, email list, graphics, social media, maintenance, admin, and all the other things that goes with having a blog and website.
Knowing me, when I created this goal for myself, I knew it wasn't going to be my only goal.
I also wanted to focus on improving my emails, starting a YouTube channel, doing FB and IG lives, creating courses and packages, etc.
And I had to do a reality check with myself in January, because could I really do all of those things at once? No, and I knew it too. Because I already tried to multiple times before.
You can only do so much as one person until you burn out.
Until you find yourself stressed out, cranky, and full of anxiety.
And constantly on the end of tears.
Basically, it's a scenario you don't want to put yourself in.
So, I decided that for Q1, I would focus on content creation and marketing, which is ... still a bit too broad, but I've started implementing the "do your top 3 most important things" and it's going very well because it's helping me focus.
Which is the whole point of this blog post: Improving your focus.
And the way to do that is to be really specific about what you're doing and why you're doing it.
Focus on what's essential. What's really at the top of your priority list, not all the 50 things you wrote down that you think needs your attention right now. Or all the other things that you want to be important because they seem easier to do.
It's a muscle you build over and over again.
It's like running or building any new skill. You're going to have to do it over and over again until you get good at it.
In a day and age where everyone is trying to get your attention, where it's common practice to look at your phone before even getting out of bed, where you're being bombarded with messages and notifications all day long, it's hard to focus on anything.
But if you start turning off the notifications, start getting intentional, and better at prioritizing, you'll build your focusing muscle.
You'll get better at tuning out the noise and saying no to what's not important, instead of saying yes to everything and marking everything as top priority.
Because at the end of the day, everything can't be top priority.
So ask yourself, what do you need to focus on today?
What do you need to focus on right now that's going to move the needle for you?
And then work on that. Because it's a whole lot easier having one big, overarching goal every month and having your to do list support that than to aim for 20 different things and hoping something sticks.
It's like playing darts when you don't really know how to play darts. And/or you have really bad aim.
Work on your aim first and learn how to play the game, and then start throwing your darts.
I'd love to hear from you.
What are you choosing to focus on this month?